Mom of Fame – Maureen: Three Different Births (Born Silent, Born by Induction, Born Naturally)

We love how willing moms are to opening up their hearts (and lives) to other moms. Honestly, there is no greater tribe then that of motherhood.

Maureen is mom to three. Two adorable little boys and one girl who was born silent. She writes with such open honesty that we were just hanging on every word. She talks about ‘maiden self’ (which we didn’t know anything about) and how each one of her births were so different.

She is the type of mom that you would want to go for any kind of advice and she’s the type of PERSON that would be willing to sit down with you and help. She deserves the title of Mom of Fame. Please welcome her and read her story below.

Tell us about yourself and family!

About me, I recently figured out that the common thread of my interests, passions, work experiences, conversations with others, and observations of communities/individuals has always related to well-being. Which MOMFAMING is a great example of supporting the well-being of mommas through connecting, supporting, and seeing mommas!

My husband, Michael, and I are journeying through almost 11 years of marriage. Marriage is such a journey! Am I right mommas?! He is the kindest man I know and I am grateful to walk with him through the mountains, flatlands, and valleys life throws all humans. I don’t always love those valleys but I am recently embracing them differently and trusting they pass. I am growing a new appreciation for them because they bring such gratitude to feelings of joy and the experience of being alive! I am so glad to do life with him.

We have two boys. Lars who is 5 years old and Lennox who is 5 months old! We also had a daughter (Hadley) who died, stillborn at 9 months of pregnancy. She was our first born and it was a healthy pregnancy. After an autopsy and genetic testing we never were able to figure out what happened.

Lars, our five year old is fun, independent-minded, joyful, and sweet. Lennox, our five month old is such a smiley and happy guy. His entire body smiles when he smiles and we are just soaking it all in. I keep saying I feel like a Grandma. Since there is a decent space between their ages (five years) I think I appreciate the moments so differently.

We have moved around quite a bit since having our children. We have lived in Kansas, Michigan, and California. We recently moved back to Michigan from San Diego, CA! We are both from Michigan so are loving being with family.


What is the best piece of advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that piece of advice to someone else?

At a very deep level you know what to do, what you need, and what they need. The important work is to eliminate the noise from society of what it should look like and be aware of how our own ego/past experiences impact us. As that noise quiets down, that deeper knowing emerges and you can tune into that and work from that space. I didn’t receive this advice until our third but I fully embraced the advice and guidance. I would totally give that piece of advice to someone else.

How is motherhood different than you imagined it would be?

It demands more than I thought. I didn’t think about all your body really goes through to create, carry, birth, then nourish a baby. That is a lot and it demands the time and space for all of that to happen. It really does require you to care for yourself at a different level than I thought so you can show up for yourself, your partner, and the kiddos.

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What are your three strengths when it comes to motherhood?

I care deeply about my boys growing up with an emotional vocabulary and learning how to be comfortable in ALL of their emotions. I am still learning for myself how to do that but care about them building those muscles to navigate that process.

I smile a lot at them, find joy in little things, and love them deeply.

I am putting myself first, husband second, and them third. They need a momma that loves all of herself, loves their daddy, and loves the heck out of them. Also, something I am still working on daily because so much in our society tells us to put kids first and other things after. AND kids just need things all the time, like help opening a banana, or to nurse, or to change a diaper, or to play games! Ha!

Describe a time where you were completely overwhelmed as a mother.

Four weeks postpartum with our first born son. I started having “weird thoughts” that now I have learned were completely normal for new moms and are called intrusive thoughts. From what I have learned, our bodies are intuitive and are in a mode to be aware and protect our babies. Most new moms experience intrusive thoughts in one form or another. For example with our third child, after he was born, I vividly thought about the possibility of me or someone else dropping him while going down the stairs. The thought came into my mind very often, where before I would have been worried. By reframing and understanding things differently, I gently thanked my body and mind for tuning in and reminding me to take it slowly going down the stairs and to be more cautious while others held him. Many mothers stay silent in shame. If you are reading this and experienced this as well, know you are normal. I would encourage you to get to a momma’s group or talk to a doctor. I plugged myself into Honey: A Space for Mom’s in Ferndale, MI after having our third child. That is where I realized I was totally normal and felt supported!


Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother? What have you gained?

No. I think I have just evolved. It took me a long time (5 years) to fully open myself up to the vastness that is motherhood. While pregnant with our second son, my prenatal yoga teacher talked about grieving your maiden self (yourself before kids). I realized, right when she said it, that I still had not allowed myself to grieve and close that chapter and fully welcome in motherhood. After allowing myself to grieve my maiden self I felt a massive shift towards opening myself fully up to being a mom. I loved my son (and daughter) so much AND at a deep level didn’t quite feel like motherhood fit me. After that process I felt like I opened myself up to the vastness of the role as a parent/mother. Now I feel that motherhood fits perfectly. I am so grateful to experience it and I am grateful to get to feel that. It was always hard to feel like for some women it just perfectly clicked for them.

In terms of what I have gained from becoming a mother; empathy and humility. Loads of empathy and loads of humility. DAILY! And such fun and beautiful moments with them. I feel most alive and whole seeing them smile, laugh, and experiencing the simplest of things.


What do you want your child(ren) to learn from you?

I just want them to feel loved from their momma. They will learn so many things from so many people and experiences in life. I hope they will know they are loved and I hope they are kind to others and themselves.

We know that no two births are the same. Can you tell us the differences between your births?

We have had three births. Our first was different in the sense that our daughter died and I delivered her stillborn. We went to the hospital because I didn’t feel movement and she didn’t have a heartbeat. I immediately went from wanting to try a natural birth with no epidural to not wanting to feel any of it. I think I just didn’t want to feel that massiveness of what was happening. Although it would seem horrible, which of course it was, it was also such a beautiful time and birth because that was our time with her. We were in Kansas and I got an epidural early on so really didn’t feel much physical pain. Just the pressure while pushing. My husband and best friend were in the room for the entire labor. We experienced every emotion during that labor. About one hour before Hadley was born my childhood best friend showed up and was there for delivery. We held her for a while that night then spent time with her the next day before saying goodbye. I often get asked what would be a helpful gift to give someone if someone you know experiences a stillbirth. They Were Still Born: Personal Stories About Stillbirth by Janel C. Atlas. It was THE most helpful thing early on in grieving. It has so many stories from other women and their experiences of stillbirth.

Our second birth, of our son Lars, was such a different experience. We hired a doula knowing we needed and wanted support. We delivered him vaginally, with full Pitocin and no epidural at 38 weeks. We chose to induce early because we didn’t know why Hadley had died and so the doctors suggested doing it. Our doula walked us through the entire birth, advocated for what we needed, and really guided me and my husband through the entire birth. And when Lars came out it was such an unbelievable moment to experience him. Our room was dark most of the time, our doula brought essential oils, and my husband was the best DJ ever. I still say some of his song selections and timing is what got me through. I will never forget seeing Lars with his eyes wide open and feeling him in my arms.

Our third birth, was really a culmination of learning from our birthing experiences with Hadley and Lars. We took a birthing class from an unbelievable woman in San Diego who was also my prenatal yoga instructor. Through that process, my husband and I got to a point that we were very confident in knowing what we wanted, felt equipped with birthing positions, felt we could advocate for what we wanted during the labor process given whatever curve-balls may come our way, and felt much more open to letting the birth be whatever it was that showed up. We delivered at the Karmanos Natural Birthing Center in Royal Oak, MI. We were fully open to getting epidural or not forcing a natural birth if I changed my mind during labor. I ended up delivering vaginally with no epidural (and no Pitocin needed this time). Michael and I fully did that birth together. We were basically on our own with very minimal monitoring. Of course our midwife popped in once in a while along with our nurse, but we just got to intimately deliver our third baby together. AND our nurse massaged the heck out of my lower back for some of it like a boss! Our lactation consultant told me about the breast crawl and that they didn’t need to take baby right away to do all the measurements and things they routinely do right after if the baby looked okay. So they left Lennox right on me in in my arms. We left the vernix on until we left the hospital two days later (I like staying for as long as I can). We left Lennox on for the breast crawl that took about an hour and a half until he crawled up and latched on. I am beyond grateful learning about this from our lactation consultant. It was a complete game changer. He was calm during the entire process and it was such a calming/bonding experience for us.

Photo by Kelly Stork Photography

Mom of Fame – Alis: Twins and a Singleton

We are so excited to highlight our next mom! Alis is a standout mom that is strong, kind and honestly, one of a kind. Her and her husband had a harder road to getting pregnant, but were blessed with twins and a few years later a baby girl.

Please welcome her to the Mom of Fame!

Tell us about yourself and your family!

My name is Alis and I have been married to my husband Darrel for almost 11 years. I have 8 year old boy/girl twins and a 6 year old daughter. We tried for 2 years to get pregnant and during that time I was diagnosed with PCOS and we ended up needing fertility treatments which gave us the twins. All 3 kids have completely different personalities and keep us on our toes.


What is the best piece of advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that piece of advice to someone else?

When I was pregnant so many people said “take the help you are offered”. I didn’t realize what that meant until I had kids and learned quickly that it truly takes a village. My immediate family is amazing, and I always knew they would be there, but those outside supporting roles were crucial. I am glad I kept that advice in mind and definitely pass it along with a little more elaboration. It’s hard to admit that sometimes we feel under water and invite people to take things off our plate. We feel that accepting help is admitting weakness, but in reality we have so many people put in our paths to not just make us feel better but to add to our children’s lives. Our children’s lives have been changed because we took the help offered by their teachers, principal, school district, their friends’ parents, and our own friends. It really does take a village!

How is motherhood different than you imagined it would be?

I am an over researcher; if I am going to do something you better believe I have obsessed over it for some time. During our fertility journey I was on every article, blog, forum, website you could imagine. I had this wonderful plan that I knew was perfect, until I was handed my babies (and yes you think you can make a plan no matter how many you have). I didn’t realize that in spite of your best efforts your plans will fly out the window and that you will probably go against every rule you set for yourself at some point in time.


What are your three strengths when it comes to motherhood?

My sense of humor in most situations. If I didn’t laugh I would probably cry, a lot. Plus my kids have very tough skin because they have learned to laugh at themselves. What is life without laughter?

My ability to not be too high strung. I know my kids will be kids and that means they will get dirty, they will get hurt but they will learn and it’s okay. I can’t teach them some things, only living life can do that.

My ability to apologize. It’s hard being a kid just like it’s hard being a parent. Every stage of life is new to me as a parent. Sometimes I get it wrong and I am not too proud to tell my kids, “I am sorry, I was wrong, can you please forgive me?” I think it’s important for them to know it’s okay to make a mistake but also to own up and apologize no matter who you are.

Describe a time where you were completely overwhelmed as a mother.

It’s always overwhelming, I don’t think you are doing it right if you aren’t overwhelmed. This is the hardest job on the planet and we do it everyday with no breaks, even when we aren’t with them our minds are.

I will say my most overwhelming experience, specifically, was when my daughter was diagnosed with ADHD. This was when taking help was crucial. We went through some really trying times during that period but her school stepped up in a big way and has gotten her so much help. She has adjusted beautifully but that almost broke me.

Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother? What have you gained?

I don’t feel I lost anything in a bad way. I think that before kids my sense of accomplishment was so different. Instead of measuring success and life goals by money and material things (although I wouldn’t turn down winning lottery numbers) my success in this world is my children.


What do you want your child(ren) to learn from you?

To laugh – always to laugh, it will make your life so much richer.

To be kind – be kind when no one can see you and be kind when you know you can never be repaid.

Always do your best – even if you fall short, no one can ever ask you for more than your best.

Finally, to love – love yourself, love each other, and love those you don’t know. Love without bounds and love unconditionally.

Can you tell us some of the differences in pregnancy and motherhood (in general) that you have experienced with having twins vs. a singleton?

I think I got lucky having twins first because I didn’t know the difference. They were my baseline for pregnancy. When I was pregnant with my singleton I was amazed how much easier I could breathe and move. Looking back at pictures now and how big I was with twins I have no idea how I did it!

Mom of Fame – Becky

We here at Momfaming have had some personal things happen within the last few months. We lost the time where we used to interview our wonderful mothers. Starting with Becky we are hoping to get back into the swing of things tenfold.

Becky is a rockstar. She is a full-time working mommy of three who is married to a pilot and still (somehow) makes a little self-care time for herself. She is a role model when it comes to examples of what a mother should be and we are thrilled she wanted to participate in our blog.

Read on to see why she really does deserve the title of Mom of Fame!

Please tell us about yourself and your family.

Hey everyone! First of all, I can’t believe I’ve been asked to guest-write on a blog. This is so exciting, especially because Momfaming is one of my favorite pick-me-up spots when I need the extra support. So thank you for my 5-seconds of fame! But back to myself and my family so I’m a good guest blogger 🙂  I’m 35 years old (I think? I often must count up from my birth year to figure it out. I hope I’m not alone there!). I work as a Sr. Learning Consultant for True Value Company, which I’ve done for seven years. I was very blessed two years ago when my company allowed me to work remotely after deciding we wanted to move back to MI after 10 years of living in various other places. I’m married to the only person on this planet who could possibly handle my craziness – Blair. We went to the same high school (go Wildcats!), but never knew each other, as we were a year apart. We were blindly set-up my mutual friends (Hey Mike and Michelle!) and the rest is history. We have three beautiful Little Freemans – Luke (9), Lily (6), and Brielle (3). Our family is rounded out by Bella, our puggle, two hamsters (at one point we had eight, which we had to separate into individual cages due to three rounds of incest and MORE hamsters…fun times), and a 55-gallon tank of fish!

What was the best advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that advice to someone else?

To be completely honest, I received SO much advice that after a while, it was overwhelming. People’s opinions and ideas about how to diaper, how to set schedules, how to dress, feed, nurse, sleep, burp, medicate, etc. were never in shortage! I did my best to absorb what I could, but when my first was born – it ALL went out the window and I somehow just knew what to do. I know many call this mommy instincts, but for me, it couldn’t be truer. So, rather than advice, I like to let new moms figure it out on their own, and if they ask me, I’ll tell them how I did it. But each baby and mommy are different than the next!

How is motherhood different than you imagined it would be?

It takes a lot more work than I ever could have prepared for! You rarely get to see a mom “behind the scenes” while in action, because let’s face it – unless I’m married to you, if you come over I’m doing my very best to put on a show and make it look like we’re totally under control! So, prior to having kids, I had no idea how time consuming (yet rewarding!) it can all be. You don’t get “down time” as we all know. When you get the rare moment to yourself, your wheels are turning about the next thing related to keeping your family afloat.

What are your three strengths when it comes to motherhood?

Being organized – anyone who knows me knows this is my super power. I love to stay ahead of things. Being married to a pilot whose schedule changes monthly, we need to have structure, routine, process, strong communication, and most importantly, a plan!

Taking the time to understand a situation – this one sounds weird but let me explain. I work hard at putting myself in other people’s shoes to get a better idea of what they are thinking and feeling, which may be driving their actions. My children, their teachers, bus drivers, grandparents, etc. This is so extremely helpful when little kid emotions flair. I can help them by asking why they’re upset, what they expected to happen that didn’t, and how they can help themselves in any situation. I’m all about empowering my kids, but first I need to teach them the skills of empathy and understanding.

Being a mom and not a best friend – I love my children. Fiercely. But I’m the first one to tell them when they aren’t living their lives in accordance with our family motto of “Faith. Family. Friends.” I firmly believe that while I want to be friends with my children, my first role in their little lives is to guide, correct, and nurture. I’m tough on them, but that’s because this world will be tough on them. They need to have the strength to stand tall in today’s world, because lots of situations and experiences will try and pull them down. I’m here to ensure they know right from wrong, how to use their voices, and how to positively contribute to the world!

Describe a time where you were completely overwhelmed as a mother.

Blair is gone typically three to five days at a time. Having a 3, 6, and 9-year-old keeps me on my toes daily! As a family, we have full-time work, full-time school, daycare, homework, dance, Cub Scouts, Daisies (which I lead), friend issues, home maintenance, pet care, chores, church (not just the service – I teach Sunday School and have choir practice, too!) So it’s hard to pick just one time, as I think motherhood ebs and flows when it comes to being overwhelmed.  But the beauty is that – it’s our life! I wouldn’t trade any one of those things. I combat the craziness by being organized, asking for and willingly receiving help (i.e. my cleaning lady who is amazing and budgeted weekly because mama needs a minute!) and having a tribe of people to go to when I need them (you know who you are….)

Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother?

Not at all. I truly believe this is who I was destined to be and am so happy at where I am in my life! It’s a lot of work, but holy cow is it worth it. My heart lives in each of my three kids, and the blood, sweat, and tears I put into them pays out ten-fold every night when I’m tucking them into bed.

What have you gained?

Besides 60lbs? LOL! I have gained the capacity to love more than I ever knew possible. I have gained the ability to push myself harder than I thought I could, because they need me. I’ve gained patience, the ability to think before acting, and to love everything about myself, including my flaws. I have three kids who constantly look up to me, so I need to stay real, stay positive, and rock it out the best I can! (And regarding the 60lbs – I’m happy to say that I’m down 30lbs since August, as I’ve reprioritized my life and made time for ME, which is so important.)

What do you want your children to learn from you?

Insert the tears! What do I want my children to learn from me? That life isn’t perfect, but you have a choice as to how you react to it. That they have a voice that can make a difference. To be kind (I tell them this every morning before school). That it’s ok to love so big, it makes your heart hurt. That when your heart hurts, it’s ok to talk to someone about it (hopefully, they trust me enough to be that person!) And mostly, I want them to learn to have faith. In God, first, and in themselves secondly. Their lives are what they make of it – go out there and shine my sweet angels!

You have so much going on! You work, have three kids, a pilot husband and you still make time for self care. What is your secret? Any advice to moms?

I’ve had the great pleasure to meet an author by the name of Mel Robbins. Mel wrote a book titled “The 5-Second Rule.” Here’s the rule: The moment you have an impulse to act on a goal, you must push yourself to move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill it. Man, is this SO TRUE for me. My workouts are first-thing in the morning. I wake up at 5:15 to get ahead of the kids, who wake at 6:45. It’s not fun, and I never want to do it. But I know that once my feet are on the floor, there’s no turning back. I use this principle in everything in life – Just. Go. Just do it! Not everything will be glamorous, but once you see a need, a desire, a goal, a chore – anything really, take those 5-seconds and GET MOVING! You’ll be so happy to look back at those overwhelming days and say “Wow, I’m a freaking rock star!”

Mom of Fame – Sapna

When Sapna reached out and said that she was interested in being interviewed we were so excited. Not only does she have an amazing blog, but she also expressed how much she loves what we’re doing with our blog (flattery will get you everywhere, obviously!). Once we read Sapna’s answers we were even more excited. Each of her answers are so thoughtful and helpful to moms everywhere. She has such a unique perspective of motherhood from raising her three children in several different states, while also making sure to keep them aware of her Indian culture and her husband’s southern traditions.

As always, we are so thankful to be able to welcome Sapna into our Mom of Fame. Please leave her some love and help her realize how much she deserves to be there! Also be sure to check out her blog by clicking on the link below!


Tell us a little about yourself and your family.

Hey y’all! My name is Sapna and I’m a pharmacist turned stay at home mom of 3 beautiful, smart kiddos. I grew up in Atlanta, GA, but my parents are of Indian descent. They moved to America shortly after they were married to provide a better life for my brother and I. I consider myself to be Southern as I have spent the majority of my life living in Georgia. However, my parents did a great job instilling Indian values and culture in me. My husband is actually Caucasian, which makes our children mixed. It’s important to me that I pass on to my children the values and culture of my Indian heritage, as well as the Southern traditions of my husband’s family and my childhood. I recently started a blog about what its like raising half-white, half-asian children in America. I write about everyday mom issues, tips and tricks, and resources for helping Indian Americans raise their children. I also added a sort of book club as I’m an avid reader, and I’m working on lots of yummy recipes coming soon! Check it out at, and follow me on Facebook!

What is the best piece of advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that piece of advice to someone else?

The advice to “ignore what everyone thinks motherhood should look like and just do it your way” was the best advice I’ve ever received. It’s easy to get all flustered and feel like your failing when all you see around you are so called stepford moms with their perfect bodies and perfect babies, who have all their ducks in a row. For me, motherhood is far from that. With my 3 crazy kiddos we take things one day at a time, but we always have fun! Our house is a mess, and I haven’t brushed my hair in a week. We hit up the gym regularly, and I try to make sure we do at least one fun kids activity daily. My advice to you is to just focus on what makes you and your family happy and healthy – that’s what’s most important.


How is motherhood different than you imagined it would be?

Motherhood is a lot lonelier than I imagined. I guess I figured all moms were somehow automatically great friends, but it turns out that’s not the case. We have moved multiple times since having children, in fact, all 3 of our children are born in different states. It’s been really tough trying to meet other moms who have kids of similar ages and to connect with them socially. Being a working mom with my first 2 kids made it even harder. After my 3rd child was born, I was able to stay at home with the kids, which has given me so much more time to interact with moms groups and go on play dates, etc. I’m still working on it, but I think I’ve finally found a group of great ladies I can relate to 🙂

What are your three strengths when it comes to motherhood?

1. I’m a planner and I like to be prepared. I plan our meals, play dates and activities for the kids, and I always have snacks/drinks in my van and on my person. Hell hath no fury like a hungry toddler.

2. I’m good at going with the flow. When our plans are interrupted by some unforeseen complication, I’m pretty chill. I stay calm so the kids stay calm while we think of a way to solve the issue at hand and get our day back on track. Problem solving is an important skill I want to teach my kids. It’s imperative that they learn to handle a “bump in the road” because life in the real world is full of them!

3. I love my children, unconditionally and with all my heart. No matter how crazy they make me or how many times they’ve had to go in time out, at the end of the day I make sure they know that they are loved no matter what.


Describe a time where you were completely overwhelmed as a mother.

When my second daughter was born we had just moved to a new state. It was December and we now lived in Wisconsin. We hardly knew anyone there, and had no support system. Being new to the crazy winters of the north, stuck inside with a 2 yo and a newborn, plus postpartum depression made for a terrible combination. I also had to return to my full time job after just 6 weeks. I felt so guilty dropping my girls off with a nanny while my husband and I went off to work. It turns out the nanny was horrible, and my newborn developed positional plagiocephaly from being left on her back all day. Thankfully we were able to get a bazillion second opinions and it turned out she did not require surgery. It was a ridiculously stressful time. I cried, ate my feelings, and cried some more. I survived, but I’m now convinced that hell is cold, dark, and lonely – not unlike the winters of Wisconsin – no offense to all you northerners out there 🙂

Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother? What have you gained?

Oh my, I have lost my body, my mind, my sleep, and all personal space – I can’t even go to the bathroom alone, haha! But in return I have gained endless love and joy, and oh so much laughter! My kids are my reason for living and I’m so thankful to them for reminding me of all the little things in life that are so precious. I cherish all the moments we’ve shared and the memories we’ve made over the years.

What do you want your child(ren) to learn from you?

I hope my children learn to love unconditionally and to be kind to others. I strive to make love and kindness a priority in my life and I hope that they will see that and learn from it. In this day and age what they say is true, “What the world needs now is love, sweet love.”

If you would like to read more about the struggles of raising bi-lingual kids check out Sapna’s blog post about it here.

Mom of Fame – Melissa

Walking into Melissa’s home we were greeted by her two little girls. Her little boy was busy in the other room watching one of his favorite shows. The girls came in and out showing us some dance moves and wanting to be involved in the conversation.

All the kids were happy to pose with their mom for photos and you could clearly tell how enamored they all are with her. Being the mom of three little ones can be such a crazy ride, but Melissa organizes everything with such ease (at least it looked like it to us). She even showed us her organizational wall; a place where the calendar is located (so no one misses a thing), book bags are hung and homework and forms go.

She might have three little children and work out of the home, but you would never see any sort of stress on her face. She takes it all in and she makes everything look easy. She deserves the title of Mom of Fame!


What is the best piece of advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that piece of advice to someone else?

I thought about this. I guess it depends on what age, I feel like it changes. As babies, and I was a nanny before so I feel like I knew a little bit, to get a schedule and stay on it. That really worked for us. I always did that and that was such good advice. I always had a bedtime and all my babies went down at that bedtime. It always worked. We always did naptime at the same time of day and we just kept on a schedule. Still to this day, we go to bed at a certain time during the school year and a certain time in the summer. We keep to our schedule and I never had the problem with  my kids having a hard time going to bed. Everyone just knew it was bedtime and went to bed. It made my life really easy.

[I] sometimes [give that advice to other people]. I don’t feel like I’m quick to give advice. If someone asks me to I will, but I don’t know if I’ve ever given it out. Everyone has their own way of doing things and what works for you doesn’t work for everybody.


How is motherhood different than you imagined it would be?

It’s way more tiring than I ever imagined it would be. You think you can do it all, but you can’t. I don’t know how any mother does it as a single mother. It’s more than you think it will be. That’s the biggest difference. It’s more work than you expect. It’s worth it! And I always think to myself, “in 15 years I won’t have all of this work anymore and I’m probably going to miss it!” So it’s okay.

What are your three strengths when it comes to motherhood?

So this one was hard. First I thought…

Multitasking and being organized. I feel like that’s a big strength. I work from home and I’m balancing clients, and the kids, and my kids play sports and they dance. I can keep it all under control.

Then after that, I was like, “I don’t know…what else?” So in my group chat I asked my girlfriends. I said, “you guys, what are my strengths!? I don’t even know!” And surprisingly everyone says…

Patience. I don’t think of myself as being patient. But my girlfriend said, “I didn’t think of you as being patient either until you had children. And you are so patient!” So I guess I’m patient!


Describe a time where you were completely overwhelmed as a mother.

I feel like I’m overwhelmed a lot. The biggest overwhelming time was when I had [my daughter] and [my son] was 20 months old and she got really sick. I remember we spent two weeks in the hospital with her, from 3 weeks old to 5 weeks old. I felt so overwhelmed and so bad because I had a 20 month old at home and I stayed at the hospital every single night. It was awful. I just felt so guilty that I wasn’t with [my son] at home and then I felt so guilty even if I left the hospital to go shower. Even though my sister would come stay at the hospital I would come home and shower, see [my son], and go back. That was the most overwhelming two weeks ever. Just not knowing what was wrong with your baby and trying to be a mom to another baby, you feel like you’re neglecting because you’re not there.

Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother? What have you gained?

Not really, I really don’t know. I feel like I’m the same person, but better! You grow up. Even if I wasn’t a mom I’m sure I wouldn’t want to be doing the same things I was doing before. I don’t feel like I lost anything really.

Obviously I gained patience, that my friends never thought I had before [laughs]! I’m able to juggle things now. I gained, obviously, children.


What do you want your child(ren) to learn from you?

I thought about my girls, I really hope that they get friendships like I have. And for [my son] too, but as a girl, as a woman to have those amazing friendships with other women is priceless. I’ve grown up with my best friends my entire life and just having them to back me up and to have someone else to talk to and to be able to share your experiences with. I really hope that for my girls, especially. I hope that they learn to be kind and nice people.

You have three small children, you work from home, you have a million friends and you seem to always be doing something fun. How do you prioritize your life with everything you have going on?

I don’t know if I’m always doing something fun! [Laughs]. So working from home with three kids is super hard. It’s a struggle. Weekly I’m struggling. My kids aren’t old enough yet to technically fend for themselves in the house while I work. So having to always have a babysitter here or have somebody here or try to schedule my work around who has dance, who has whatever. It’s a daily struggle. I’m lucky that my mom lives [close], my sister lives down the street, I have 15 and 16 year old nephews that will babysit for me. I have people to help me out. I couldn’t do it without that. That’s probably the most difficult to balance is working from home.

Obviously our kids are the number one priority. And work. But I also make my friends and our family, our relationships a priority too. I just try to balance it all. It’s a little different with my girlfriends now. It’s not like, “oh, let’s go out to dinner!” We hang out with our kids. So it’s quality time, but it’s hectic when you have 12 kids running around and you’re trying to talk. So I still try to do stuff, but it’s different stuff now. It’s not always easy, but I make it work. You just make it work!

Mom of Fame – Nichole


We were so excited when Nichole reached out to us via Instagram that she wished she could be interviewed, but she was too far away. We love how moms are responding to what we are doing and want to be involved. The only way we can grow and learn is from people speaking their stories.

We told her that she could be one of our write-ins! Nichole is mom to THREE little ones. The amount of patience it takes to care for one? Times that by three. Nichole seems to handle it with ease, though. We went to Michigan State University at the same time and even worked together at the child development lab on campus. She was kind, so kind, to all the children that she taught. There were a couple of student teachers that came in and out of there and Nichole was, by far, the most liked.

I believe that she was so well liked because of how caring she was to the children. She never focused on one, but spread her kindness to everyone. I can only imagine that she is doing that in even greater amounts to her own children.

Nichole, welcome to the mom of fame, you deserve it!


What is the best piece of advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that piece of advice to someone else?

I had an incredibly quirky OB with my first born.  He had the worst bedside manner but we only had two doctors to choose from in our small town and I was told he was the best. Anyway, on our discharge paperwork he wrote, “By three weeks postpartum, leave the baby with a trusted family member and get dinner with your husband.”  Truthfully, I haven’t followed any motherhood advice but that piece I have taken with me over and over.  It wasn’t just about getting out of the house; it was about making your marriage a priority.  It’s so hard because you have this enormous responsibility in making sure these little humans grow up into decent people but if you devote yourself entirely, they begin to take you hostage.  When a friend is having troubles in their relationship, the first thing I ask them is, “When was the last time you had a night away without the kids?” Almost every time they say it has been years or never since the kids were born.

How is motherhood different than you imagined it would be?

When I was choosing bridesmaids, my mom questioned some of my choices. She said, “Give it a few years and you probably wont even be friends.”  I remember that I was offended and thought, “Come on mom, we’ve been friends for years, why would it change in the next couple years.”  Then we got married.  Then I got pregnant.  And things changed.  But this isn’t just a sob story, because the thing is that other friendships really strengthened.  And I gained so many new ones; a Mom Tribe that is super strong!

What are your three strengths when it comes to motherhood?

Confidence to fail and succeed, independence, and space to grow:  We bought our home on nine acres.  They are constantly encouraged to explore and test themselves physically.  I don’t have to hover.  They can be themselves.


Describe a time where you were completely overwhelmed as a mother.

I think that moms have a tendency to downplay the overwhelmed feelings they may have.  Like my friend’s baby was born with a condition that is going to require major surgery this summer… but she responds with “Well I should be thankful, it could be so much worse.”  We have the right to feel whatever we feel, however often we feel it.

So here is one instance:  I have taught first grade for eight years and this year my son began first grade.  I found it almost impossible to take off my teacher hat.  I’d spend the day trying different intervention strategies with my kiddos, introducing new concepts and skills.  Then I’d come home, a bit exhausted, and I’d think “Oh my gosh, [my son] doesn’t know how to do this yet!”  I’d listen to him read and mentally I’d be calculating his accuracy and reading level.  I think as teachers, we are told over and over by politicians and administration that a child’s academic performance is a result of how effective we are at teaching. So I internalized it to be that his academic performance would reflect how good I was at mothering. This year we had a small miscommunication that I blew out of proportion.  I decided right then and there to ask for help, to hire a tutor afterschool so that I could leave work at work, while taking back my evenings of just being mom.


Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother? What have you gained?

I lose and find myself at least every year.  Everytime I stop making myself a priority.  A coworker asked me shortly after having Easton, “What do YOU like to do for fun? You know, not with the family?”  And everything I answered, I realized I hadn’t done in years.  I’m actually in the process of finding myself again, lol.  A long, nauseating, and emotionally exhausting pregnancy has kind of made me go into a year of hibernation.  Time for mama bear to get out of the cave.

What do you want your child(ren) to learn from you?

How to wash dishes and do the laundry.  Mama could use some help!

What was harder? Going from one to two children or two to three? 

No question, one to two.  I think the age gaps play a huge role in it though.  When [my youngest] was born, his siblings were getting ready to turn 4 and 7.  They are so independent and helpful!