Mom of Fame – Arianne: Single Mom to Blended Family

Arianne is a mom to two and step-mom to four! She was a single *boy mom* that met the man of her dreams and is now a blended family of eight. She talks about the achievements she has had from not only raising her boys, but from being a step mother as well. She goes into combining the two families and the challenges and success (and love) that comes along with it. She deserves the mom of fame title.

Please show Arianne some momfaming love!


Tell us a little bit about yourself and your family.

I’m 33-years old and live in the small town of Morenci, Az. I am currently a full-time online college student with Grand Canyon University. As of August 2019, just made my University President’s List for maintaining a 4.0 GPA.

Until 3 years ago I was a single mom raising two boys to become men. Then I met my current fiancé and now combined we have 6 children total, 3 boys and 3 girls. All from ages 12-years old to 4-years old.

My life is fulfilled for the first time in my life, everything seems to be coming together. I’m achieving things I never thought I could possibly do. Someone helping me mold my sons and having daughters of my own.

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What is the best piece of advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that piece of advice to someone else?

Motherhood is one of the most difficult jobs, yet one of the most rewarding jobs. It’s one of those blessings that come during the most difficult storms of your own, and your biggest achievement you could ever see is when you realize the young ladies and boys that you have raised and the people they become. To not be afraid to raise them by rules, and it’s ok to be the bad guy; that is your job because they will teach them to be great citizens. Not to baby them, and to allow them to stand on their own feet and use their voice.

At first as a new single mom I didn’t take the advice about not babying them, and about not standing over them and trying to do everything for my two sons. This was something I learned as they got older. It was extremely hard to break because they wouldn’t apply themselves and if something was hard, they wouldn’t want to do it.

Advice I would give is allow your children to learn how to use their own voice in a respectful manner. If something is happening at school that is bothering them, they need to tell a member of the school staff. They need to not be afraid to be honest and talk to someone that will teach them how to understand what having a voice truly means. Also, allow them to try new things. If they are three and want to try and make their own chocolate milk then let them, let them start to explore and remember they are learning by watching you.

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How is motherhood different than you imagined it would be?

I thought Motherhood would be easy. That it’s a natural way of life. Motherhood is far from that! It’s a constant learning experience and constantly is teaching you more about yourself as a woman and mother.

Motherhood changes you and that’s something I never thought I would do. I thought I was secure in who I was, but becoming a mother taught me more about my own strengths and weaknesses that I didn’t know I had.

What are your three strengths when it comes to motherhood?

1. Patience has become one of my biggest strengths when it comes to their bad days, or teaching them how to cook. Patience and being patient with them during homework and life lessons.

2. Listening to them. When I learned to listen to my children my relationship with them got stronger. Showing that their feelings do matter.

3. Making time for the little things. Life gets so busy and making the time to go on that bike ride with them because they asked or going to throw the ball with them. Making time for the little things is also a huge strength because that’s when the bonding happens.

Describe a time where you were completely overwhelmed as a mother.

When I went from being a mom of two children to a mom/stepmom of six children.

Combining a family and trying to do everything for all of them and build relationships and understand them. That was extremely hard and overwhelming. I would hide in the bathroom at times just because I felt, at many times, I couldn’t make any of them happy or be the mother/stepmother I wanted to be.

It’s frustrating and felt like I was failing them all. It took about a year of overcoming the feelings I had to finally understand how to be the mother I wanted. It also took me not giving up just because it was hard. My stepchildren love their dad, but there is something about the women of the house. Always coming in to ask me something when my fiancé was right next to me or coming in to tell on someone.

Learning how to be what they all needed was very overwhelming. Now I can say it was worth it.

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Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother? What have you gained?

Being a mother, there is no room for being selfish. Everything you do as a mother is for your children. No decision can be made without thinking how this will affect your children.

I was a selfish young adult, and that wasn’t the best quality. So, gaining the understanding of not being selfish, I feel, has made myself a better person in general.

Having my children has made me a better person.

What do you want your child(ren) to learn from you?

How to accept your mistakes and learn from them.
How to never give up when things get hard.
How to constantly want to improve and grow as a person.
How to always reach for your best and challenge yourself.
How to never stop being about family.
How to understand that being a stepparent is just as important; to be a parent to all the children.
How blood doesn’t make you family, but if you have step siblings, they are your family. How to protect each other as they grow up together.
How to be strong and independent people.

Mom of Fame – Kelly : Single Mom, Boy Mom, Super Mom

We are so lucky to have this continually growing group of moms that are willing to share their stories and experiences with us. Next up on the Mom of Fame is Kelly. She is a single mother of one awesome *almost* 12 year old boy. She talks motherhood, raising a son on her own and the humor that comes with being a #boymom.

Please welcome her to the mom of fame!


Tell us a little bit about yourself and your family.

My name is Kelly and I am a single mother of an amazing almost 12-year-old boy, Dylan. We are settled in Michigan with our dog Ryder and have been here for almost 8 years.

What is the best piece of advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that piece of advice to someone else?

I would say that the best piece of advice anyone ever gave me was to offer a bottle right away even though I was breastfeeding. Many people are so quick to judge what is best (breastfeeding or bottle feeding) and so for me when I was able to do both, it gave me a sense of relief and freedom. I primarily breastfed up until 8 months however, there were times I was sick and needed to be on antibiotics that I could not breastfeed, so I was thankful Dylan was already used to a bottle when he needed it. It was also nice to be able to pump and have him get used to someone else feeding him.

How is motherhood different than you imagined it would be?

No one could have prepared me for motherhood. It is so much more (the good and the bad) than I could have ever imagined. It is the most rewarding thing I have ever done.

What are your three strengths when it comes to motherhood?

3 supermom powers that I have are:

The ability to raise my son to be a good human being
The grace to be able to find humor in almost every situation
Perseverance (it has been challenging raising a son on my own)

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Describe a time when you were completely overwhelmed as a mother.

I had to laugh at “describe a time where you were completely overwhelmed as a mother”…. EVERY DAMN DAY came to mind!

If I had to choose one moment that stands out it would be when my son was 7 months old and we flew to Washington State from Michigan and were waiting for his father to return home from Iraq. We didn’t have housing yet so we were staying in a hotel room. I had help picking up our truck that had been in storage so we had a vehicle. My son ended up with Pneumonia and so did I along with mastitis. When I went to take us to the doctors, the truck had died. So I had a sick baby, no transportation and no help. We finally ended up taking a taxi (yes it was before Uber was a thing) to the hospital. When we finally got home with our antibiotics, all he wanted to do was nurse however I couldn’t. I remember crying sitting on the bathroom floor thinking “how am I going to get through this”! After hours of crying on both of our ends, he took a bottle and we were both able to sleep. A team mate of his fathers came and fixed the truck so we were no longer stranded and his father returned home a few days later from deployment.

Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother? What have you gained?

I lost a lot of myself becoming a mom. For a long time I forgot who I was and what I liked to do because all of that energy is put into raising another human. At some point that changed and I was able to become a better version of who I was before I was a mom. I have gained so much being a mom! I have gained patience, grace, tenacity, and honestly a life long best friend. My son is a missing piece to my life that I never knew even existed.

What do you want your child to learn from you?

I want my son to learn how to love people, and love big! To me, raising someone with good values who makes a difference in the lives of those around him is what is important to me. I want him to see that anything is possible and that as cliche as it is “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”!

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You are a boy mom! You and your son seem to have such a wonderful relationship. For other moms that are raising boys – What would you say is your number one piece of advice for having such a close relationship with your son is?

I love being a mom of a boy. And honestly, I cried when I found out he wasn’t going to be a girl! Now, I couldn’t imagine it any other way. He is my best buddy, he brings me water when I am sick, is my biggest fan, loves life, and is just an overall good person. To moms who are raising boys, I would say, raise boys who are well rounded and teach them it is OK to have feelings. We are raising men who will one day hopefully be a partner to someone else, and will need to be loving and strong. And get ready to learn more than you will ever want to know about boogers, farts, poop, sports, dirt, and so much more!

Mom of Fame – Morayma

Getting to know different kinds of moms is really the best. Whether meeting them in person or online, we learn something new with each interview. Morayma is single mom doing it all on her own. Mom to a teenage boy and preteen girl, things can be overwhelming. After reading her answers we have a new perspective on how raising children into teenage years can be.

We can all relate to so many of her answers. How hard it really is to be a mom, but how overwhelming wonderful it is at the same time.

Please help us welcome Morayma into our Mom of Fame! Please be sure to check out her blog, Adulthood Rewired (think healthy living, parenting, and life as an adult)!


Please tell us a little about yourself and your family.

I’m a single mom of two great kids living in Los Angeles. My daughter is 11 and just started middle school, and my son is 14 and will start high school next year. My life revolves around redefining myself as a woman and in my career post-divorce, and my kids…so it’s a lot of ballet lessons, soccer practice, Fortnite, and slime making!

I worked as a fashion model for 15 years before having my kids. After I had my son I couldn’t bear to leave him to travel for work, so I started my freelance writing career. I write content for different clients ranging from medical to fashion and everything in between. I am also a substitute teacher. About 5 months ago, I decided that I really wanted to be able to start writing for myself, and started my blog, Adulthood Rewired (www.adulthoodrewired.com). I’m having a lot of fun writing it and learning how to be an effective blogger. I write about healthy living, parenting, and life as an adult in general….how we are all just trying to figure things out from one day to the next!

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What is the best piece of advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that piece of advice to someone else?

Now that my kids are both in middle school and growing faster by the minute, I think the best piece of advice I was given was to “enjoy every minute of it”. Despite the sleepless nights, and toddler tantrums, I really wish I would’ve really enjoyed those years and those moments more and stressed out less. I wish I would’ve not worried so much about whether or not I was doing things “right” and just been in the moment. My kids are typical tween/teens now and love doing stuff on their own or with friends, and I miss having them around and cuddling up all the time…I feel like they grew up from one day to the next. Bittersweet. I would definitely give another mom the same advice. Just to slow down and enjoy every phase and stage [even the difficult ones] because someday they would miss it. All of it!

How is motherhood different than you thought it would be?

It’s A LOT harder than I thought it would be, and I didn’t think it was going to be easy to begin with! My son had some health challenges when he was a toddler which was very difficult to go through. It was also a learning experience to realize that what works for one child may not work for another…and that sometimes no matter what you do, your kids will still sometimes act out, make bad decisions, etc, and you have to let them stumble and fall and pick themselves back up. It’s hard not wanting to always make everything “ok” for them. My mom was a nanny so I grew up around babies and kids my entire life. I thought I had it in the bag, but having your own kids is a game changer. All of a sudden everything you thought you knew about raising kids goes out the window! It’s definitely a challenge, but so worth it.

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What are your 3 strengths when it comes to motherhood?

I am and always have been very consistent when it comes to bedtimes, so my kids have always been great sleepers, on schedule, and well rested. Early to bed and no issues in the morning getting up. (Wish I could say the same about how they get ready for school in the mornings though! haha!)

I’m an avid researcher and have learned a lot about holistic health and natural remedies which have helped my kids and I stay as healthy as possible even during cold and flu season! My kids are so used to it that they were taking teaspoons of cod liver oil when they were little with no issues!

I’m an old fashioned mom in a lot of ways, which my kids may not appreciate now, but I like to think it’s a strength. At 11 and 14 they still don’t have cell phones, they have chores, they have earlier bedtimes than most of their friends…that type of thing. I don’t believe in raising entitled kids, and I try my hardest as a single mom to make sure they grow up to be respectful, and grateful. This is hard especially with my son, since I do think having a strong father figure in the home is so important especially for headstrong boys like mine is….but I do my best and hope at least some of it sticks.

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Describe a time when you were completely overwhelmed as a mother?

It’s a toss up. When my son was little he had a reaction to a medication that caused some long lasting side effects. I was devastated and spent a few years researching and trying to find a way to recover him. Thankfully I was able to with the help of some amazing integrative doctors, but the stress and lack of sleep from worrying so much was incredibly overwhelming. Now, I am overwhelmed because it is so hard for me to feel like I know what I am doing….the teen years are an incredible challenge with him. Some days are great, but other days I feel completely at a loss.

Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother? What have you gained?

In a lot of ways I feel like I lost my sense of identity. For 11 years I was a stay at home mom and wife. I stopped working and never really took any “me time”. After the divorce I had to figure out how to make ends meet and had to hit the ground running. I had to find myself again and learn to rely on only myself. Three years later and I am still struggling but staying strong. Always a work in progress. I have gained patience and a perspective in life that you just don’t have when you are not a parent. I have also gained the ability to love more than I ever thought possible.

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What do you want your children to learn from you?

I want them to learn that I love them but am not perfect. That I will make mistakes, but we all do. I want them to learn to be strong, and independent, and to take on challenges head on. I want them to be happy, and never settle for less than they deserve. I want them to learn that you don’t need material things to be happy, and to always be kind.